Another approach to take when making opportunity cost decisions is to ask a mentor. Asking someone else who is not looking through your eyes means that they may see potential solutions and barriers that you might not have.
But how do you choose a mentor?
A mentor should be someone you trust and respect. This needs to be someone you are not necessarily very close to because they may need to share some harsh truths about you and you need to be able to not take it personally, but rather see it as constructive criticism (something meant to build you up from where you are now). If you are too close, it could get emotional. But it needs to be someone who knows you and you know them to a degree.
You need to trust this person. The more they mentor you, the more trust will be built, but there needs to be a respect and foundational trust to build upon. This could be someone in your church, or in your community that you know to be honest and caring. Ideally, you may want someone who is in a place or going in a direction you want to go. They would have more experience and wisdom to share with you their own mistakes and give some perspective you couldn't even consider because you haven't been there yet.
A mentor may also be someone who you can ask for accountability. They can check in with you and ask where you are in your plans. How is it going? What do you need to build off of from what you have done so far? Either way, a mentor can help you fill in pieces you may miss in either backwards designing your opportunities, or your pros/cons lists. They are a great resource that can give you even more confidence in the decisions you do make.
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